‘The two shall become one.’ Matthew 19:5 NKJV
The word commit means ‘to bind, or obligate, or pledge’. For some of us, it makes us think of having to serve, have limits placed on us, and the loss of our freedom. In other words, it scares us. Many people place a high value on their independence. As a result, some of them can also become more reluctant to commit to a relationship that requires compromise and consideration of another person's views (see Philippians 2:3-4). It may lead to a desire to keep the relationship flexible, so they can stay or leave whenever they want. The person desiring the commitment finds such a relationship frustrating and unfulfilling. So, what should you do if you’re reluctant to commit to the relationship? Two things:
1) Be honest with yourself about your fears, feelings, and motivations. David said, ‘You desire truth in the inward parts, and in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom’ (Psalm 51:6 NKJV). Notice, wisdom comes from being honest about what is going on inside you. How did your parents’ relationship affect you? Do you find yourself behaving in a similar way?
2) Admit the role you may have played, even as an enabler of poor behaviour, in the collapse of a former relationship. Have you changed now? Are you willing to? If so, then here is God’s promise to you of a better future: ‘Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing…’ (Isaiah 43:18-19 NKJV).
SoulFood: Num 22-24 Matt 11:20-30 Ps 108 Pro 3:31-32
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